I don’t often travel at work but of course yesterday my boss asked me to go to Copenhagen in mid-April, just the week after the estimated IVF date. I love Copenhagen and this is for a really interesting workshop but what if I’m on hyper stimulation and cannot travel? What if I go and then get a negative and feel super guilty about having travelled? What if I am super slow in reacting to the meds and end up having the egg retrieval or transfer that week?
I don’t think it’s a good idea to go. Too bad for Copenhagen and for the workshop.
So the question is, how do I say no to my boss? In all this yesterday he also told me that in April we’ll have a visitor for 2 weeks and I’d need to be available to meet him. I’ll be off for one of these 2 weeks for the IVF but I didn’t dare saying it.
I talked about this to my family and they all said I should just tell him the truth at this stage. So I tried with my hubby: same answer. So I tried with one of my best friends (colleague who know my boss): same answer.
I think in theory they are right but I really don’t feel ready for it. Why yes: I wouldn’t have to come up with silly excuses, I would maybe get a bit more understanding/flexibility at work and I could warn him when I am likely going to have time off.
Why no: my boss is bad at handling people, so he is likely to ask too many questions, to get worried about my output and to blame me for delays or problems in the team.
What to do.. What to do..
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